i have a similar problem, as im also a begginer i cant speak from experience however i have two things to offer. Have you tried spinning to stabilize i heard it helps, didnt help me tho. The mistake i made was closing my eyes during it so i woke up, so watch out for that. Second thing you can try is dream chaining, when the dream collapses and you wake up try not to move and remain calm, theres a chance you can slip into the next dream which, induced like that, has a higher chance of being lucid. With all that said stabilization is a skill, and like any other of its kind, it takes time to master i guess, so dont rush it
. Wish you the best of luck, and patience
Thanks, buddy. Although most of what you mentioned are stuff I know, your contribution is much appreciated. Today, I had a series of lucid dreams that I can truly call lucid dreams, unlike the previous ones where all they lasted was a few seconds compared to today's 5+ minutes lucid dreams
. The moment I realized I'm dreaming through my personally golden lucidity trigger (looking at hands and finding extra fingers), I kept telling myself "This is a dream, this is a dream..." while touching everything I could find around me. Tables, walls, people, anything. At one moment, I found myself holding a woman's head in my hands to ground myself in the dream world and prevent the usual expulsion my subconscious forces upon me. I also think that expectation really plays a major role in lucid dreams as I planned before going to sleep that I will expect to remain in the dream world, rather than the usual worrying about not being able to stabilize the dream. And it was a success. I managed to stabilize the dream! Now I went about exploring the immediate school-like environment. It lasted a few minutes before the dream collapsed and then I spawn in the director's office, apparently to be punished for the wrongdoing that I did a few moments ago. I then ask the director to give me a moment to inspect my hands first, as I put them on his table and observe them. Again! Extra fingers on my hands, I become lucid again and continue roaming around the dreamscape and doing all kinds of stuff I could think of at the moment. I lost lucidity a few minutes later and then a few moments pass I spawn in my home as I become lucid again! Now I really got a taste of how it feels to be lucid, albeit semi-lucid. Although the potential for further lucid dreams was possible, I just decided to leave it and wake up feeling ecstatic to record these achievements in my dream journal.
As the stabilization problem is solved, now I can proceed on to improving at the other skills: heightening lucidity and dream control.
Wish me all success, as I wish you all wonderful, amazing lucid dreams.