I'm well aware of religion and thought crime. But for this question I tried to leave religion out of it and target only secularists because I don't respect religions as ideologies. I got married at the registry office, you know what I mean? Religious people have not thought deeply about morally and have just merely accepted their faith's garbled version. In religion, thought crime is real, in State law there is no such thing. Hence the degree of separation between church and state even if it isn't official in some countries. I can tell you that a lot of Christians here in England don't behave according to the tenets of their faith and don't even care to spread the gospel. But I can see the experience in Somewhere like America being different.
Lol, I don't respect either religions or their counterfeits ideologies - both are "sins" against rationality. However, the claim that "religious people have not thought deeply about morally and have just merely accepted their faith's garbled version" is extremely false. To adopt the morality of a faith one has to both learn what it is, transform ones character to it and both of these things evolve a lot of thought.
... their notion that when you love someone you don't even think, or shouldn't even think, about others in a sexual way is a bit misguided, too. Not to mention that polyamori is completely discarded or thought not to be possible...Christianity has a warped view of sex and has always tried to suppress it to the detriment of mankind. It has completely brainwashed many when it claims a virgin gave birth to the Messiah.
My statement about not desiring others did not come from religion, but both from my own personal experience and family example. Most (even successfully married couples) don't have relationships founded upon true love. Personally, I planned on following my father's example of a wife with a regularly upgraded mistress. However once you've experienced true love with someone one realizes how shallow and empty sexual relations without it are.