So, my question is this...
Based on your experiences, is it possible that certain aspects of our subconscious are not ready, willing, or able to change (short term, long term, or possibly permanent); no matter the amount of love, kindness, or otherwise goodwill that could be thrown at them?
An example that was used today during this conversation: take a man on the street that has had the shittiest day of his life and is just out looking for a fight, does he really care if you come at him with a hug and goodwill? It's quite the possibility that he'll break your nose.
Can our subconscious act like this, or is there a key to using love in a certain way? After reading Laberge's books, I was under the impression that any nightmare could be diffused. Wondering how experiences have been for fellow oneironauts.
It was the best version of Little Red Riding Hood i could've come up with (there were many more details in the dream).. Whose afraid of the big bad wolf?
There have been a few times in a lucid dream when I did manage to control my emotional state and confront an antagonistic dream character and it works.
But other times, especially during Sleep Paralysis, my emotional state is beyond control. What I have done in those situations is get angry at whatever it is that's fighting me. In December was the last time that happened and there was a guy in my room who grabbed me, so I held his arms to subdue him. He somehow was able to poke me in the eye with another arm and just kept jabbing me in my left eye. I knew I was dreaming, so it wasn't painful and I knew I would not get hurt, but it was certainly annoying and shocking. After trying to reason with him, which was impossible, I decided to take matters into my own hands, and got really angry and jabbed my fingers into HIS eyes. I pulled his face down, like ripping off a mask and I saw robotic circuitry in the space between his eyes and cheeks under the skin. He eventually morphed into a Slinky toy and I tossed him aside and left my room in the dream.
If love and acceptance, and controlling your emotions fail, turn your fear into anger and take control of the situation. It's like standing up to a bully. But although I felt good about defeating it, and even joked to myself in the dream about it, I didn't really win. As I walked away I realized I still felt fear and comedy only masks my true emotions, but in a dream I'm not fooling anybody!
In the first dream i posted, my adrenaline was up, but i stood my ground because i knew i was dreaming - that is the beauty of lucidity. And although it doesn't always stop us reacting, it does allow some conscious assessment of the situation. In a way though, i think fantastical creatures are easier to deal with...human ones are far more connected to perceived 'reality'. I've done running and fighting too.
SP is particularly vivid but i must say, I loved the way you tossed the guy aside at the end as he turned into a toy...being annoyingly into interpretation, it does seem to present a good metaphor! But yeh, there can be no winners because we are only fighting ourselves in those situations.
Moto of the day..'Love Thy Demon' They are actually, very helpful to us, if we can learn to meet them.
Let me redirect you all to an earlier passage from my past. All true, but in retrospect, hindsight is always 20/20. But this is organic and from me and pure from my early days....
(Take it or leave it, but if it was important to me at the time, it still is, and should be relevant to any discussion still going on today!)
This is all anecdotal, but I needed a place to share it, because lucid dreaming can get deep sometimes and we need a place to talk. ( I don't believe in demons by the way... )
HAGART wrote:This is all anecdotal, but I needed a place to share it, because lucid dreaming can get deep sometimes and we need a place to talk. ( I don't believe in demons by the way... )
Neither do I. Not really. Only poetically.
What an amazing (if uncomfortable) dream and thanks for sharing it as I wasn't here then (nor was Maker) - it's given me a lot to mull over and i'd like to read through the whole post when i have more time. There are classic signs of inner shadow stuff going on with the response 'If you punch me, you'll feel it, but if I punch you, nothing will happen to me' (indirect quote) Nothing can happen to the shadow as the shadow is exactly that...but it does give me a lot to think about in terms of the way these figures manifest themselves...and how we 'choose' to interact with them in a lucid state. Since then, have you had any more encounters with this particular shadow? I must say, i love the way you still bring your humor into your unconscious, i think this is a great tool in itself, even when the shadow doesn't think it's funny!
I must also add that by talking about this, last night I had a night full of shadow stuff that's familiar to me! I also kind of knew i would. At one point i woke myself up then lay there very still and thought 'Nooo, go back and face it' and I did, wasn't lucid, not fully, but it wasn't resolved by any means. Learnt a lot from it though!
I think state of mind is important too. I think if in waking life we feel grounded calm, we can deal with this stuff easier. Perhaps you were in two different states of mind on those 2 occasions creating different scenarios.
Tell you what, just that we are talking about this stuff (beyond religious perspectives) is pretty cool and i'm sure it all helps. We can talk about this more at some other point, like you say, it's all emotive and effects us on a deep level.
TillyPink wrote:Since then, have you had any more encounters with this particular shadow?
No, that was the big finale.
I find it interesting to see my younger self's take on it before I became more informed. (I just read it again, and words are hilighted because I used the "keyword search tool" to find and share the link in case anyone wonders why...)
I've had some SP nightmares since, but nothing like that. They are manageable now since I am more familiar with them. It's like riding a bike and you can get use to it and learn the do's and don'ts. For example, don't bother looking at it. If you feel hands touching you, just let it be and keep your eyes closed. And do get up if you can and leave the room behind you, free from the grips of sleep paralysis. They go away in time. (I've got some stories I can share some other time). The transition from wake to dream and that half-way period when there is a dual perspective on your corporeal body and the dream body are very amazing and not always scary after you get use to it. (They are still rare for me... maybe 10 times a year).
I don't know that acceptance will work for you either. Psychology links together being accepting and trusting as one psychological trait. I'm trusting according to multiple psychological tests. My question is can you really trust a DC that you're already afraid of and suspicious is going to attack you - I think that might be even harder than radiating love at them.
And there is only one thing we say to death "not today"
- Syrio Forel
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