I don't know how to say this without causing trouble, but I don't want to be a sheep and should speak up.
If you aren't aware of it, nesgirl, you did call some girls, "girly" as a derogatory word, so DeschainXIX did make a good point about that:
deschainXIX wrote:But I think it's interesting that you refer to those types as "girly girls." This term seems to imply that the female gender is intrinsically inferiority, doesn't it?
He's just using your own words against you to make you think about it.
Like most things in life, it's best not to be in either extreme, but in the middle. As most of us are. Walking versions of Barbie with the personality of plastic or a manly man, so manly they chop down trees with their sharpened beards are just ridiculous. They are just ideas that people have and they are so extreme it's polarizing.
The truth is, we are all the same. Before we were born, we had no gender and basically looked like deformed lizards. (So now I am saying babies are stupid, rude, AND ugly!
) Everything else is what we think we are suppose to be, and are taught how to be a boy or a girl. It bugs me that my brother has twins, boy and a girl, and gives a pink balloon to his daughter and a blue balloon to his son. It just reinforces a stereotype that was not known at birth but ingrained through society. She wants to be a ballerina, he wants to be a pirate. If it was the other way around, I bet they'd be upset, but why should they be? Society has created gender roles that run deep and are instilled in young minds before they even have a chance to make up their minds.
I don't want to sound too 'spiritual', but I believe we should all get in touch with our male and female sides of our psyche. It may sound like NewAge garbage, but I actually do think deep down we are genderless in our minds, and it's only society that made us think we needed to behave a certain way.