TheBarracuda57 wrote:Hi there Rebecca. I'm Barry and new to this site.
I am 18 and have been able to lucid dream since the age of 5. At the age of 12 I could lucid dream so regularly I had one every three nights. I got worried that because of this, I couldn't have normal dreams (when my subconscious helps me with mental stresses in real life), I forced myself to forget my dreams in the morning to stop having lucid dreams (the dreams which had no message compared to the unconscious ones). I eventually lost my ability all together, forcefully. Age 14 I found out what I could do was "lucid dreaming". I have been visiting your site for 4 years. I have tried so many things but to no avail. I get maybe 2 lucid dreams a year, maybe 3.
I have 3 questions I really need answering. I would be infinitely grateful if you could help.
1) Because I used to be able to do it loads before, is it possible for me to unconsciously remember what I did to have those dreams? When I try consciously (through the day) to remember what I did when I was younger, it seems that the harder I focus on Lucid dreaming.. the less dreaming I actually have. Do you think something like reverse psychology ("I won't have a lucid dream tonight/I won't be able to remember how I lucid dreamt when I was younger"), would find the solution deep within? I can't explain this any better. The main question is: how can I remember what I used to do in order to be lucid? I'm sure my old technique is deep in my subconscious, but I don't know how to get to it..
Take it easy - I think you're overcomplicating things. Your goal is to learn lucid dreaming again, and there are many ways to do this described in the Lucid Dreaming Techniques section linked below. You don't need to uncover lost childhood memories to figure out how you used
to do it. If you can't remember how it came naturally as a child, then you'll just have to start over again. At least you already know you can do it. Most people go into it with serious self doubt, so you have a major head start.http://www.world-of-lucid-dreaming.com/lucid-dreaming-techniques.html
Note: reverse psychology can work in as much as trying to repress an idea can make it poke through in your subconscious. Sensitive or fearful people can find horror movies make them dream of poltergeists even when they tried to suppress the very thought. The imagery has to be quite powerful. So spend 5 minutes before bed trying NOT to think about lucid dreaming. It may work for you. If it doesn't work after a week or two, just move on. But hey, it may work the first night.
TheBarracuda57 wrote:2) What do "you" personally do before you sleep? Eg. write what you want to do in your dream, meditate, eat and think about when you close your eyes and drift to sleep. I'm just curious to know..
It varies. At the moment I use a combination of night-time meditation/ WILD/ dream re-entry (esp. from 6am onwards). I also incubate lucid dreams by writing and thinking about my dream intentions during the day. I practice reality checks and try to be self aware while awake. When I write my dreams down in the morning, I also have way more DILDs. Sometimes I forget or can't be bothered, which is really counterproductive because I know how powerful dream journaling is.
TheBarracuda57 wrote:3) Finally. I had a recent dream where I was in a field. My friends were in the middle at this huge table. Surrounding us were dragons and trees. I was so focused on what my friends were saying, I wasn't any paying attention to myself or the obvious dream dragons. I always seem to be focused on my friends in dreams. I think because of this I never look around to see if there is anything abnormal about where I am. I mean.. a table in a field.. and dragons? Yet I still passed these off in the dream as real. What can I do during the day to improve focus on the dream world? Do I need to focus more on what I'm doing and what is around me.. rather than focusing on my friends or crowds? Can you help?
Thank you for your time, Barry
I don't think it matters what
you focus on, as long as you are mindful and can ascertain the difference in this particular feature when you're dreaming vs when you're awake.
For instance, I might dream of an old school friend in the wrong context - such as in the workplace 10 years later. This should trigger a reality check. Or I could look out for deceased people in dreams, alive and well. Lucidity doesn't have to be triggered by dragons or flying pigs or anything wild and outrageous. It's the subtle inaccuracies that can often trigger moments of spontaneous lucidity.
You can also meditate and increase your self awareness while awake. Always be mindful of where you are. Continually remind yourself what you are doing, ask yourself if it's real or not, do reality checks, and make sure you're not dreaming. Many people don't truly "get" this, but it's one of the more powerful ways to create spontaneous lucidity in dreams. I should do an in-depth article on this - look out for it on the site sometime soon. In the meantime, this is the closest thing that explains it:http://www.world-of-lucid-dreaming.com/reality-checks.html