Summerland on topic
Just be yourself. I hardly ever talk to strangers. Most of the time I just think of people as noisy furniture, especially on crowded buses, and when they are young and stupid and I just want them to shut the fuck up....Yeah, you also don't want to come across as a bleating pain in the ass. Moreover, think about what could happen if you strike up a conversation with some psychopath who develops an unhealthy obsession with you. Socialising in this manner can be a great boon in widening your network and enriching conviviality, but it invites a greater possibility of danger, too. ...Unfortunately, our world is not uncorrupted. It is multicoloured with personalities with all sorts of hidden agendas. The introvert is safer than the extrovert in the same manner that the monogamist is safer than the polygamist, and, if your friend one day realises this, he may want to be more like you. I'm sorry if I sound cynical but I am only trying to be realistic here. Perhaps save your keen, forthcoming side for those occasions when you may wish to seduce your "object" of attraction. (And pick wisely.)
Never mind being well liked! If this becomes your main focus you will drive yourself insane. Do what comes natural to you instead of trying to live to entertain others.
* Point one: yes Summerland you're cold and have dehumanized others and shown at the same time what's wrong with that. Point two: Psychopaths are generally just going to ignore one if one is warm towards them – they're both cold and malicious and think of them as just objects. It's pretty unlikely that a relationship will be formed with them or that they'll become obsessed with someone else. Point three: knowledge is power, socializing with others allows one to detect their strengths and weaknesses. This knowledge allows one to avoid their strengths and manipulate them into situations where their weaknesses will become critical traps that defeat, destroy or ruin them. The person who does not socialize with his enemies is the one who is not “safe”. I agree with Sun Tzu [if one knows oneself and one's enemies one does not need to fear defeat in a hundred battles]. Point five: one does not even know if there is any chemistry between you and a member of the opposite sex unless one socializes and flirts with them – that socializing and flirting builds desire and affection in both parties too.
Isn't it funny that this mentality about animals being good no matter what still prevails in this day and age. A crocodile bites a man's arm off in a zoo and nothing happens to the animal (and it shouldn't because it is in its nature to attack). The victim might even live to tell the tale and laugh about it later with his friends whilst feeding the very same croc at the zoo! If a psychotic human maims an unfortunate soul, the corollary of the situation is quite different. Despite being a victim of his brain physiology, the deranged individual is ostracised. (And often punished in order to give the rest of the community a false sense of justice.)
Not too long ago [August 1, 1966] there was a guy called Charles [Witman](I forget his second name) who went on a killing spree in America. He had murdered his wife, kids, and parents [he murdered his mother, then his wife and then 16 random strangers at his university in Texas]. He was out of control and the media surely labelled him a monster. Eventually, the police executed him [ he died in a shootout with three police officers who attempted to sneak up on him ]. But here is a profound twist: a suicide letter was found on him. (He knew he was going to be killed.)[he left this note with his mother's body] The letter explained that he could not account for his behaviour and that he loved his family very much. He felt that there was something wrong with him and requested for an autopsy to be performed on his cadaver, stressing that his brain should be studied. When they finally opened his brain, a tumour was found to be pushing against his amygdala (the centre of our emotions) [it was found between the occipital and temporal lobes – no where near the amygala . The minute you learn that the killer was a victim of his physiology is when you realise that he is not truly culpable and the massacre should be viewed as nothing but a terrible accident where many perished. Just something to ponder over... ...I would also argue that nobody can truly be held accountable for anything because there is no such thing as free will. (But this is another topic.) Even the psychos who are tumour-free are victims of their own brain chemistry which they did not pick. So, control is illusory.
*Summerland this is a scientific hoax, not different than the old hoax that moths turned black by soot being an example of modern evolution. Witman was on and a chronic abuser of Dexedrine/Dextroamphetamine [eating them like popcorn according to a friend], a drug known to have these side effects: bipolar like affects with swings between euphoria and depression; anxiety and paranoia; delusions and hallucinations; also to cause headaches. He before his murder spree was known: to have criminal tendencies [he was a deer poacher]; to be a second generation wife beater and to have violent thoughts of mass murder. Hint, Summerland, all habitual hunters have had impulses to play “the most dangerous game” (aka hunt humans). Considering that he had both a criminal and evil, he had nothing opposed to those impulses and decided to act them out. When one combines this with his chronic drug abuse one needs no other explanation of his behavior. Also, men whom beats their wives don't love them. Love makes one gentle and affectionate towards its object.
In fact, what you decide to do in a lucid dream is constrained by urges that you did not author. Such impulses arise from your unconscious side and their origin are often unknown to the self. You may decide what you decide but you don't get to decide what you are going to decide. You can't even predict what you will be thinking next (and I bet you couldn't predict all your responses to my posts either prior to having been exposed to them). All of this just proves my point: there is no free will....If you don't believe me, you can refer to Libet's experiments where the relevant motor parts of the brain activate before an individual becomes aware of deciding to move a limb. If you still insist that free will is not an illusion and that the universe is not deterministic dure to cause and effect, then give me a genuine example of free will seen as this subject is appearing to be apropos to the topic. (Bear in mind that you did not pick your genome, your family, your gender, your ethnic origin, your life's events which influenced you etc.) Ultimately, I contend that we cannot truly be blamed for anything just as praise is not ours to take for "our" achievements. The authorship belongs to the Big Bang that set everything in motion in this universe.
* Summerland this is truly sad, you've dehumanized yourself just as you've dehumanized others. One needs to gain knowledge of oneself to gain what freedom there is of will. Everything one does is something one has chosen to to and ones entire mind is plastic and can be molded into any form one desires. Any lucid dreamer potentially has more knowledge of themselves and experiences that can lead to changes caused by the environment or by genetic personality programs. It does not matter whether free will or determinism is correct – one is never a robot following programs unless one has chosen to be one. One become free and pure when one loves oneself. Genuine self-love is as vital morality as the love of others. Those without it betray themselves to act out their self-hate (aka guilt) and then further act it out by remorse where they punish themselves – LOL be true to oneself and change oneself if one makes a mistake!
We'll see how long it will last. There are a couple of users who hate me already on here (not saying who they are). Not that I am anti-friendship, it is just that I tend to make enemies a lot easier than I make friends, and I really don't care for having more enemies to deal with, and I would rather avoid making friends than have more enemies to deal with.
* I doubt that anyone hates you at this site. Almost everyone is mature and rational here. One has to be extremely immature to hate someone because of anything they say at a forum.
"There is only one God and his name is Death.
And there is only one thing we say to death "not today"
- Syrio Forel