nesgirl wrote:Dead people don't dream. Once they are gone, consciousness is lost forever.
And as much as that person is sad over the love of his life, like everyone else, he has to learn to move on. He can be a bitter hardened negative person taking it out on everyone because of it, but he still has to forget about her.
There are certain exceptions you have to be very careful around. Although the person has to cope, like I have to with my mood swings despite them being out of hand, if the person suffers depression, severe hypertension, mood swings, or some other mental disorder, you have to be very careful on how you approach them with death, so either they don't kill themselves, or die from their health issue.
When I was a teenager, I was faced with death in a similar fashion when I had a BFF die on me who was the same age. I was very upset and with the fierce mood swings I had, I was thinking about very horrible things, his mother and I were getting into physical and verbal fights (she is bipolar). Eventually after some therapy, I finally had to accept that he was gone forever, and there was nothing I could do about it, I broke up my friendship with him knowing that (cannot be friends with a dead person), and while I am still bitter and angry about how it ended too early, I moved on with my life, although his mother and I are still enemies.
So this is what the guy in the story needs to do like I did. Learn that his wife is truly gone forever and there is nothing he can do about it. Have him go through some therapy, maybe some depression therapy. Eventually he will move on with his life and be able to start over.
Once someone is dead, their consciousness is not lost forever. Their BODY no longer has a consciousnesses, because the spirit is no longer in it.