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kamalika
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Exam phobia

Postby kamalika » 05 May 2015 17:44

Hi,

I have a very bad fear about examinations. I dream of going for an examination, and while writing the answers, I see myself forgetting what ever I have studied and at the end I see I am going home to look in the book for answer.
In real life I was a topper in class. Still in reality I used to get afraid while walking into examination hall. This phobia has developed into a serious situation now when I face pressure at work.
I don't know what to do. If by anyway altering my dream can I overcome this fear?

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taniaaust1
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Re: Exam phobia

Postby taniaaust1 » 06 May 2015 04:52

If the fears are bad enough to actually be affecting your grades or your work, you should be seeking professional counselling over it.

You could try visualizing this situation in LDs with intent to master to fear but it would carry a risk of making it worst if you didnt master the fear so could add to the issue and make it worst. Hence I personally wouldn't recommend that at all seeing this issue is already quite bad in your case.

Rather instead.. it would be better to be practicing meditation and working on maintaining calmness in situations and also practicing postive visualisation.. in which you imagine yourself (not during lucids) in this situation which is scaring you but instead of imagining fear, imagine yourself calm at it (doing this during just meditation or visualisation wouldn't carry the risk LD would with doing that and on a subconsciousness level would help just as well).
The only thing to fear is the fear itself

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Re: Exam phobia

Postby kamalika » 11 May 2015 08:36

Thank you taniaaust1 for replying.

I would like to follow your instructions. It seems totally logical. Here is somethings that I do and maybe you could guide me with what else to do :-

A little history how came up with meditation
I do a very deep meditation. Years back when I was in deep depression, I used to faint often....and for 30 - 60 mins at times. My heart beat used to drop very low sometimes like to 30 beats. But a very strange thing, after 5 - 10 mins of fainting, my senses would be revived, I could hear everyone talking around me, I could feel them touch me. But I could no way move my body or wake up no matter how I tried. Once I fainted while working in my office. That day it went very serious. My heart bit dropped very low. My colleagues unable to get my pulse called for ambulance and admitted me to hospital. There was this doctor. After examining me, he told every one I heard it...."She is ok, she is faking".....he tried to bring my conscious back by pressing between the eyebrows and nose, it did not help.

After having such experiences I thought of doing meditation. So when I meditate I go very deep. My body becomes a pulp. And while I meditate, I visualize things...all sorts of things, no control on mind, as free as water....i don't know the meaning of half of it....i wish I knew...

Can you please guide me how to make it creative or productive? While I will be waiting for your answer I will try to visualize as you said while meditating..though i don't know how....

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Re: Exam phobia

Postby taniaaust1 » 11 May 2015 10:19

kamalika wrote: Years back when I was in deep depression, I used to faint often....and for 30 - 60 mins at times. My heart beat used to drop very low sometimes like to 30 beats.


Depression should never affect heart rate like that, I wonder what you had wrong.

My heart bit dropped very low. My colleagues unable to get my pulse called for ambulance and admitted me to hospital. There was this doctor. After examining me, he told every one I heard it...."She is ok, she is faking".....he tried to bring my conscious back by pressing between the eyebrows and nose, it did not help.


Unfortunately doctors are often shocking at dealing with medical issues they are clueless about. I got accused after a collapse of "attention seeking" as a stupid doctor didn't go through my medical notes to see I have very real and severe unusual health conditions. This other doctor, he was actually a psychriastrist just bullied me after I become suicidal over my health issue and tried to say 95% of my issues in my head.

The last time I collapsed the other doctors who are aware I have some terrible medical problems were shocked to see his report from the time before and was going to remove it from the hospital medical file (they were discussing doing that but then decided they didn't want to interfere with another doctors letter. I hopefully someone will get up the guts to take it out).

umm I just had a thought of what your condition could of been, it actually could be one I have but for a different reason. There is one called postural orthostatic tachycardia which is an autonomic system disorder. This though can also be caused by too prolong bed rest which I guess someone who has major depression may do (astronauts also get it due to lack of standing gravity) in this case the thing to fix thing would be exercise.

This condition causes an abnormal heart rate increase when upright but as its affects the autonomic system.. note the autonomic system does control the heart. It's a form of what is called dysautonomia (heart and pulse rate can be doing abnormal stuff). Collapsing is one of the issues it can cause and I have half aware collapses (at times full unconscious ones and seizure like activity due to it). In this condition the person has abnormally low blood volume so the brain is like being starved of blood at times when upright.

The doctors should of had you tilt table tested!! but unfortunately 95% of doctors out there or more have never heard of these conditions and a person with these things needs a specialist who knows the condition. There are only 1-2 hospitals in my whole state who have the equipment to even test for this condition (and one of those hospitals is about to be closed down due to gov cutbacks). I haven't got a knowledge specialist for it and my specialists attempts to treat it haven't been successful.

And while I meditate, I visualize things...all sorts of things, no control on mind, as free as water....i don't know the meaning of half of it....i wish I knew...


If you have no control over it, I personally wouldn't call it visualisation but rather it sounds as if you are just observing subconscious thought flows. A like watcher detached state which is the goal of some forms of meditation. (its good for helping your mind process stuff).

Can you please guide me how to make it creative or productive? While I will be waiting for your answer I will try to visualize as you said while meditating..though i don't know how....


ok.. I'll give you some detailed info on how I've been taught to work on things.

Get yourself comfortable at a time you are not tired. Lay on your back and place your hands on your abdomen. This is so you can monitor how you are breathing while you work on your issues, if you breath hold at all, you are holding onto the emotions rather then clearing/releasing them. Your hands on your abdomen should be raising and falling with the breath if you are breathing properly and not shallow breathing and holding onto things.

Do deep breathing (but without any strain) in through your nose and out through your mouth (continuously breathing and not breath holding) ... hands gently rising and falling with the breath. Check in on your breath at times to make sure you are still breathing well.

Now think about being wherever your exams are held. Think about being in that room, what it looks like, what your desk looks like.. how it feels when you receive the exam paper or its about to be given to you. How it feels to have the pen in your hand about to do the exam. If any negative emotions come up, think about breathing them out (don't allow your breath to get faster due to fears). (You are releasing any bottled fears)

Now go onto positive mind imprinting. While being in that place in your mind... start imagining your fear leaving you over this situation. Think about what it would be like to see an exam paper but actually not be afraid of it. If it helps think about being a more mature version of yourself and use one of your selves to help your other self. Tell yourself "it's okay" .. really reassure yourself.

Confront the situation over and over if you have too.. always making sure you are breathing right while doing so and also focusing a lot on its okay... while imagine yourself in your mind being okay with it and feeling calm and happy doing the exam. Try to put the whole exam thing into a better prospective for yourself.
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Re: Exam phobia

Postby kamalika » 11 May 2015 16:02

Thank you so much again taniaaust1. Thanks for sharing your experience. Its something to know....

The method you said is wonderful. I will give it a start today itself. I will let you know after 1 week. By then I hope I would be able to control the visualization in the true sense that you mean. I am now getting the point, like what is "visualization" and "viewing subconscious". I was not being able to distinguish between them. So first thing first I will practice "visualization" for two days.... :)

The other thing, the condition you described, yes it really had something to do with the autonomous and muscular system I guess. My psychiatrist and general physician failed to explain why I was having tremendous muscular pains and I was like a vegetable, not being able to walk leave alone running. Could not balance myself while standing. In these conditions I kept going to office. It was painful and real torture. But still with what ever mental strength I had, I continued. All kind of blood test were normal, be it blood sugar or creatinine etc. A doctor of medicine then told to test vit D3. It showed 0.3, the normal which should be 30 - 50. Along with the medicines I had to go for physiotherapy and .......something the physiotherapist told me......positive thinking. I guess I had given up on living a life. I was just breathing.

These were after I was out of depression but still struggling with fear of outside world. I am a timid girl. I think I could not take the outside world shouting at me for no reason, also there are work place politics to handle. So already having a fear inside of me of facing exam, interviews or even talking to other people, the fear kept building inside me. I lost total confidence and always fearful, mind always stressed. I spent almost more than a year without proper rest and working all the time, say like 15 hrs a day. My line of work requires that pressure. I began worrying about the work I think, like will I be able to do it. Which eventually stressed me up so much that my brain shut down.

With yoga, meditation and little friendly talk with my physiotherapist, I could work upon my stress. At this moment I can say my fears are 30% gone. But the bulk remains. So with the method you said I need to develop the my inner self.

I will start today itself.

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Re: Exam phobia

Postby taniaaust1 » 12 May 2015 12:53

A doctor of medicine then told to test vit D3. It showed 0.3, the normal which should be 30 - 50.


wow that's low. I've never heard of someone being that low. That could give you muscle pains and issues

.........

There is another thing you could try which I learnt years ago and which can work great on fears, with this one you think of the feel and allow yourself to full it while doing a technique. I've seen some amazing improvement in others using it and I've found it can half my fears on just doing one or two rounds of it. Its called EFT. http://www.emofree.com/eft-tutorial/tapping-basics/how-to-do-eft.html

(the one I was taught was called The 9 Gamut Procedure which is described on that at the bottom.. the rest is done too with it. But the guy on this website says it works usually just as well without the 9 Gamut procedure added to it though I know from hypnosis techniques that the weird stuff in the 9 Gamut probably like opens a door into the subconsciousness better. So I suggest to play around with the techniques and often found which works for you. It sounds complicated but its very easyand there are videos there to show it. Hopefully they show it will, I cant get videos on my computer).

We had this guy in class who used to fear and hate cats so much that he actually went very red in the face and broke out in a sweat every time he thought about cats.. and started then to rant about them. My teacher had him doing EFT and after several times he could talk about cats without getting very angry and aggressive over them. It like numbed him to cats so he didn't mind them no more (he still didn't like them but he just after it didn't mind them). :)

It was amazing to see this guys change.
The only thing to fear is the fear itself


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