Here's a classic example of a question from a newbie lucid dreamer:
"I was lucid and I knew I was dreaming. But when I tried to fly, I couldn't lift off the ground, not even by a few inches. My dream refused to respond no matter how much I wanted it. Why couldn't I fly when I really wanted to?"
- Amanda, UK
If you've ever had a similar experience, you'll know how frustrating it is to be lucid, yet unable to control your dream.
What is going wrong here?
Well, it almost always boils down to one of two factors:
Lucidity - or consciousness - can be a slippery devil. If for one moment you forget that you're dreaming, your ability to control the dream is diminished.
That's why it's so important to perform steps like dream stabilization (which I revealed our last lesson).
Indeed, sometimes you become so preoccupied by distractions in your amazing dream world that you can forget you are dreaming altogether.
Sounds crazy? It's really not.
The sleeping brain presents an entirely separate state of consciousness. There are different rules at play. Memory, language, cognition and self awareness all function differently. So it's not hard to forget you're dreaming if you don't remind yourself regularly.
As a direct result, you can accidentally pass control of the dream back to your unconscious dreaming self. This is the part of you that produces all your normal dreams (and continues to co-create the experience even when you're fully lucid).
In Amanda's dream, her lucidity was weak and her unconscious mind had other intentions for her dream. Flying was not on the agenda.
Unfortunately, when you're stuck in this semi-lucid limbo, the unconscious mind tends to win over. You must maintain focus in lucid dreaming - a mindset you can entrain every day while awake.
This is something I cover in great detail in my interactive lucid dreaming course.
Your underlying mindset defines the way you actively control your dreams.
If Amanda was fully lucid, then the problem was she didn't truly expect to be able to fly. She had no confidence. In the back of her mind, her learned experience of gravity in real life blocked her ability to fly in her lucid dream.
All she had to do was genuinely expect herself to lift off the ground.
Note: expecting is different from wanting. It's like the difference between hoping you'll get a pay rise and knowing you're getting a pay rise. Confidence in an particular outcome means there is no doubt in your mind. And that makes dream control possible.
It also helps to voice your desires out loud. "I'm taking off into the air now."
Once you perform an impossible reality check in a lucid dream, it is much easier to expect other impossibilities too - like breathing underwater, teleporting across vast distances, and running through walls.
You can have a lot of fun finding out what’s possible.
Here are some other ways to control your dreams using The Expectation Principle:
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To the sweetest of lucid dreams...