Lucid dream sex is often the #1 reason that motivates people to learn to control their dreams.
Lucid dream control means being able to fulfill your ultimate fantasies, often just as tangibly and vividly as waking life. Between sex and flying, we've covered the two most desirable features of dream control.
The question is, are these erotic dreams really all they're cracked up to be? And are beginners even capable of them? Because as all lucid dreamers know, a different set of rules operate inside the dreaming mind...
You betcha. But it's not all that easy to initiate sex in a lucid dream, and that's because our unconscious dreaming mind often has a different agenda.
For instance, it's quite common to become self aware in a dream and go in search of a sexual partner - only to find your Brad Pitt or Scarlett Johansson has transformed into an ugly, withered being.
Other times, you can lock-on to your ideal sexual partner, or use your skills to morph them into someone more attractive, but then find they are completely disinterested in you. They may look straight through you, or walk away entirely.
Remember that many dream figures are often unconscious projections of your own psyche and, naturally, their mission may not be to find intimacy with you. Other dream figures seem to be mere autonomous agents who have no drive or agenda.
But ultimately, you can have a lot more lucid dreaming sex if you identify what motivates the dream figure. Rather than treating them as a sexual object, talk to them and offer a shared intimate experience.
In fact, it's a good idea to cultivate healthy interactions with lucid dream figures in general. More often than not, they are meaningful representations of your inner self and they deserve to be treated with respect.
If you go around abusing dream figures, be prepared to be sorely disappointed when, at any moment, they have the ability to turn your sexy dream into a lucid nightmare.
Let's assume you've made a connection with another dream figure and are having full blown lucid dream sex. What's gonna happen? Good news - there have been scientific studies into orgasms during lucid dreams.
Scientists have found that lucid orgasms can sometimes be accompanied by a real physical response, including increased heart rate, changes in vascular tissue and other muscular reactions.
Sometimes, however, it's purely in the mind - although this doesn't make it any less real to the dreamer in their super-sensory lucid dream environment. There's also heaps of anecdotal evidence to show that men who experience a lucid dream orgasm also ejaculate in real life.
The problem many beginners find is that it's difficult to hold onto conscious lucidity until the critical moment. Sexual lucid dreams are highly arousing and beginners often wake up before the experience has really got going.
In this way, lucid dreaming sex isn't ideal for beginners. You'd do far better to learn the ropes of dream control and understand how to stabilize your dream so that when exciting things do happen, you don't accidentally wake up.
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How do you feel about having realistic sex in a lucid dream with someone who is not your real-life partner? Are you actually cheating or is it all just a dream?
This is a personal issue, so consider dropping the idea with your partner and make your own minds up. I feel that it's ok to explore your sexuality in the lucid dream dimension. There's no reason to create restrictions for your partner either. After all, a lucid dream, no matter how vivid, is still just a dream. The arousal and the emotion of lucid dream sex is yours - and yours alone.
There is a caveat to this argument, and again, it's debatable but I'll raise it anyway. Let's say you're attracted to someone you know in real life who's not your romantic partner. Should you release those sexual frustrations with them inside the safety of a lucid dream?
Maybe. Or maybe not. Having erotic dream sex with someone you know in real life might just increase your attraction to them, rather than satisfy it. Is that a problem? Are you fantasizing over them with the underlying desire to hook up in real life?
It's worth mulling over before you do the deed in a lucid dream because the intensity of the experience can be pretty memorable.
At the end of the day, though, some things happen during lucid dreams which we never expect - nor control. Just like regular dreams, our unconscious can dish up some bizarre scenarios.
So don't beat yourself up about sexual lucid dreams that go awry. Freud would say you're a perfectly normal human being.
As I mentioned earlier, many people start lucid dreaming purely to have lucid dream sex. Yet that's only a tiny fraction of what they ultimately get out of it.
Since I began lucid dreaming in my teens I've discovered many surprising applications for lucidity that were far more rewarding than any erotic dream.
So while I totally understand the desire seek out sexual gratification, just remember to push the boundaries once in a while... and explore the greater value of lucid dreaming.
Jeremiah Morelli is a whimsical fantasy artist and visual storyteller. He places conceptual fairytale creatures in vivid dreamscapes to capture the imagination. He's also a school teacher, and amazingly finds the time and motivation to create this huge gallery of artwork. Such light and dark fairytale paintings make beautiful places to visit in your lucid dreams.
Inspired and named for the notion of Flatland, artist and photographer Aydin Buyuktas has created a series of works where "a space of surprises creates a space that creates surprises." Based on photos of Istanbul, Buyuktas explains: "We live in places that most of the times don't draw our attention, places that transform our memories, places that the artist gives another dimension; where the perceptions that generally crosses our minds will be demolished and new ones will arise. These works aim to leave the viewer alone with a surprising visuality, ironic as well as a multidimensional romantic point of view."
One summer, the 19th century lucid dream researcher, Marquis d'Hervey de Saint-Deny, took a bottle of an unfamiliar scent on his travels to France. He whiffed his scent-laden handkerchief by day, making an unconscious and emotional connection between the French countryside and his chosen scent. On returning home, he put the bottle away, out of sight and out of smell. His cunning plan was to have a servant sprinkle a few drops of the scent on his pillow at night. Lo and behold, Saint-Deny recorded dreams that took place at his vacation spot: the mountains of Ardeche.
Lately I've become a touch obsessed with the optical illusion paintings of Canadian artist, Rob Gonsalves. Everyone loves a good trick of the eye... but these paintings seem to be sprung straight from lucid dreams. Maybe it's their surreal nature. Or maybe it's the mockery of perspective. Gonsalves has spent decades perfecting his art, aiming to spark the imagination and jolt our expectations of reality at once. Check out the surprising results in these 22 visionary paintings. They're great lucid dream fodder.
Some people are born lucid dreamers. Others have to work at the ability to have lucid dreams. Regardless of how you get started, here are 11 signs that you're ready to wake up and take control of your dreams. 1. Your daydreams are intense. Do you have crazy vivid daydreams? Do you find it easy to fantasize visually? Such a knack for visualization makes it easier to drift into Wake Induced Lucid Dreams at night, or plant mnemonic cues to trigger Dream Induced Lucid Dreams. This is a natural advantage.
Experts agree that everyone is capable of having lucid dreams. Dreaming itself is a normal function of the mind. We all dream every night, even if we don't remember. And we all achieve conscious awareness while awake every single day. So what does it mean to combine these states? Why, the amazing ability to have conscious - or lucid - dreams. Sounds simple, doesn't it? So why do I keep hearing from people who say they can't achieve their first lucid dream?