Is Mutual Dreaming Possible?

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Last Updated May 23, 2021

Mutual dreaming is the idea that two or more people can share the same dream environment.

The concept was popularized in Inception, where lucid dreamers could link up via technology and roam around the unconscious of a single dreamer.

But what's the basis for mutual dreaming in the real world?

And could you test this yourself by learning how to lucid dream?

Types of Group Dreaming

In reality, mutual dreaming is very unlikely to exist - although we may, one day, develop technology to allow us to share "dreams".

This doesn't mean people can't share what seem like mutual dreams. The most commonly reported type is known as a meshing dream.

"Meshing" refers to different dreams which share certain elements.

For instance, you and your partner may both watch Lost together and then both of you dream about being stranded on an island.

Understandably, your shared waking experience leads to similar dreams. Even Freudian dream analysis offers an explanation for this kind of coincidence.

Sigmund Freud was the first to record modern examples of dream telepathy - the idea that 2 people can communicate telepathically through their dreams.

It’s an often-debated concept, but it does open a door to fully understanding group dreams.

The other notion of shared dream is that of a meeting dream.

A meeting dream is the true meaning of mutual dreaming, where two or more people meet up and communicate inside the dream world.

But how would mutual dreaming be possible?

The definition implies one of at least two paranormal explanations: that we have the capacity for telepathy in dreams - or the dream world itself is an external construct, an alternate reality that could stem from an artificial simulation or other shared astral realm.

"If a man could pass through Paradise in a dream, and have a flower presented to him as a pledge that his soul had really been there, and if he found that flower in his hand when he awake - Aye, what then?"

~ Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Mutual Dreaming Experiments

Group Dreaming: Dreams to the Tenth Power by Jean Campbell

Dr Stephan LaBerge of The Lucidity Institute believes that mutual dreaming experiments in the lab can test the objective reality of shared dream worlds. That means that group dreaming can be used to prove whether the dream world is a genuine alternate reality or not.

A study in 2017 analyzed the idea that shared dreams come from a desire to enhanced emotional attachments in relationships.

96% of the mutual dreams experienced were between friends, relatives, or significant others. The main focus was on the relationship between the 2 dreamers and tended to occur when they were feeling a sense of separation and lack of intimacy in their daily lives.

So it could be said that there is a link between a need for emotional intimacy and experiencing shared dreams.

It’s especially tricky to instigate dream sharing in real-time due to the fact that dreams only occur when the dreamer is in REM sleep. So for 2 dreamers to experience dream sharing they would need to enter REM sleep at the same time, which is possible but there is still a lack of study.

Interestingly studies have also found that the length of REM sleep rapidly declines with age, so in general, adults experience far fewer dreams than children do.

Numerous group dreaming experiments and anecdotes have been published over the years.

To learn about some of these cases in detail, check out Group Dreaming: Dreams to the Tenth Power by Jean Campbell. In this book, Campbell traces the history of group dreaming experiments and how harnessing the power of mutual dreams would change our world today.

How to Mutual Dream

Let's look at some mutual dream experiments you can try in a non-lucid or lucid dream state.

Experiment #1 - Meshing Dreams

Find a meshing dream partner willing to try this experiment.

Choose an activity to do together during the waking day. Maybe go to a sports event, go hiking in the countryside, go to the zoo, or watch a movie.

Before you go to sleep that night, discuss your memorable experience with your meshing dream partner.

Talk about elements that you found most interesting and set a clear intention to dream about your shared experience.

Ideally, you'll dream about your waking experience, or a closely related theme. If you become lucid, all the better.

Seek out your meshing partner in the dream and have a lucid conversation with them! When you wake up, write down all the details of the dream, including the time you think it happened.

Compare notes with your partner and see how many dream symbols you can match. Don't influence each other's dream reports or change your recollection to fit their story. If you both report a dream conversation, pay particular attention to the details. This would be a nice example of a pre-arranged meshing dream.

There is nothing paranormal about this experiment, it is essentially a form of dream incubation. It's a pretty good demonstration of how our thoughts and experiences influence our dreams - even more so when these are compelling or novel experiences.

Experiment #2 - Meeting Dreams

Find a meeting dream partner.

If you have friends who lucid dream, invite them to try this experiment with you. Or you can seek out out others at our lucid dreaming forum. The goal is to have a lucid dream at the same time, on the same date, and both remember to enact the meet-up.

Knowing how to lucid dream is the first step to sharing dreams using this technique.

Select a location to meet up in. If you both live locally, you might choose a familiar place, like a park or town center. Otherwise choose a famous meeting spot, like Stone Henge or the Eiffel Tower. Make sure you know your destination in detail so you both have the same location to meet in mind.

If you do both visit the same location in your lucid dream, it could simply be a meshing dream - a coincidence - so you need to go one step further by having an unpredicted conversation. Share something you've never told them before, or make up a code-word on the spot.

By reporting the same unique conversation, you would generate anecdotal evidence for mutual dreaming that could warrant further investigation.

Final Thoughts

There are many benefits to lucid dreaming. It can help with mental health conditions like anxiety and depression, and restore a sense of power to the dreamer. It can also improve problem solving skills and creativity.

One of the brilliant things about lucid dreaming is that it enables us to explore the dreaming mind in a way no other research method can.

I urge all lucid dreamers to help science gain a greater understanding of the human mind - including the potential existence of mental phenomena like mutual dreaming!

Our free course won’t cost you a dime. So, first learn how to lucid dream .

And then give the experiments in this article a try yourself!

About The Author

About the author

Rebecca Turner is a science writer, illustrator, explorer of consciousness - and founder of World of Lucid Dreaming. She is currently studying for a biology degree in Auckland and blogging at her site Science Me.